Dear Nicole... Crystals, Parenting, Blocks & Reminders
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Dear Nicole,
How do I know what crystals I need?
Cheers,
Karen C.
Hey, Karen-
There are several ways to go about picking out the right crystal for you.
Some people like to look up the problem and see which crystal(s) are recommended. You can use your favorite search engine or ask a person working in a metaphysical or crystal shop. There are many good websites and resources available to help you narrow your choices. Some shop will create “collections” of crystals for a specific problem set. (EnergyMuse.com is a great site to guide you.)
My preferred way is to listen to your own knowing because you will just know. You can tell which ones you are drawn to whether you are shopping online or are in a physical store. You’ll notice that you like it for no “real reason” or maybe the crystal feels physically hot in your hands (yes, this does happen to some folks!). Trust your intuition when selecting crystals. You could be directed to crystals that you don’t even know you need which is exactly why I like to throw out the textbook and the academic choice. Your body may first require the energy or healing of a specific stone before you can use the crystal your head thought you needed. Don’t worry if what you are wanting/liking/drawn to seems like an illogical choice. Trust yourself as you hold out for the best possible outcome of this purchase.
Lots of love,
Nicole
Dear Nicole,
How do I stay present with my children if I'm feeling sad/frustrated? Can I protect them from my energy?
Cheers,
Simran B.
Hey, Simran-
One effective strategy I use in staying present with little ones when we are dealing with our own feelings is to calm yourself first. In our home, I use a “calming chair” where it’s a safe place to be until the heart, hands, and feet are calm. (Once LO is calm, we then talk about what happened and I continue to parent now that I have an attentive audience.)
That said, I do sometimes put myself in the calming chair! :-) It gives me a break that I can collect my own feelings and reset myself.
I recommend trying out your own calming chair (my original inspiration for the idea from from a mom who used a tepee set-up as her child’s calming space) and giving yourself the same grace you give your kids.
Now for striving to be present with your kids when you are having a hard time, I found this trick to work well. This might sound kind of counter-intuitive but, pay close attention to your kids. Be mindful of their every move. Get down on the floor with them and just be with them. Let your only focus be them. Study their faces and features. Notice their tiny hands or gorgeous eye lashes. You get my point. Let them be your meditation.
Lots of love,
Nicole
Dear Nicole,
I use all the tools (energy work, mindfulness, crystals, etc). I’m intuitive and good at manifesting, however, I haven’t been been able to manifest one specific area of my life the way I want. How do I tackle breaking that block?
Cheers,
Erica T.
Hey, Erica-
Blocks can have several issues tied to them. It’s useful to just start getting super raw and honest about them individually. And I mean super raw and honest—you want to get past the superficial automatic responses you come up with. (We all have automatic responses, this is not a personal judgement on you!)
One thing you can do is to create a map of the block. Place your central block in the middle. Then around it, write out the fears and beliefs you hold about it. It becomes like a nesting doll set. You travel down the rabbit hole to unlock what is really going on within this block.
You repeat this process for each fear and belief you hold. Keep going deep and deeper until you get to nothing. At this point, you will have dissolved the block and have received the inspiration and ease to move forward or will have the inspiration for how to resolve the issue.
If you are still unable to get to that feeling of “unstuck” where you have motivation and actual energy to tackle the problem, I recommend working with a coach or energy healer. Self-help and self-healing is awesome, but occasionally it’s a call for someone with outside perspective to show us what we are missing.
Lots of love,
Nicole
Dear Nicole,
When you want to show up as your highest self in all your interactions, what questions can you ask yourself to keep yourself "in check"?
Cheers,
Simran B.
Hey, Simran-
Two part answer for you. First part is a simple phrase that can be used to automatically move you to a higher place (or vibration): I choose love. Repeat this statement until you feel that shift; an idea can pop in, patience may surround you, or calmness might fill your body.
When you select the filter of love, you will automatically tap into your highest self’s wisdom.
Second part is that I find maintaining that FEELING of being my best is the best on-going way to make sure I’m living life as best as I can. Taking care of yourself and energy should always be part of your picture. When that is in check, it’s easier to navigate the potholes that could trip us up.
Lots of love,
Nicole
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